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August 26th, 2007 at 06:05 pm

So, I've been having a lot of problems in my relationship over the last 6 months or so. I also have a great history of commitment issues and general problems not having independence in general. That being said, I broke up with my boyfriend. It's a long story (much too boring to be shared here), but the good news is that we got right back together again :P

We decided in the end to try and work things out. So here's the kicker: I'm getting a car! I think a lot of my smothering feelings are coming from being so dependent on him to give me rides, etc. So now we're shopping around. Getting a car at first seemed like a really bad idea financially, but after thinking about the consequences of not getting a car (moving out of my apartment, having to pay the living expenses of 2 places because I cant break my lease, etc, etc), I decided it's exactly what I need.

I have more good news. I know a guy who owns a car rental place, and they're selling a few of the cars. He'll sell them to me for wholesale price, so I'm going to take a look at a couple. I'm looking for something around $3000. He told me he had a Mazda 3 he'd give me for $11k, which is a great price given the year and the milage, but I think that's a bit too much considering I might be moving to Japan in a year... cant really take the car with me.

So let's hope that having a little more personal freedom will help my relationship. If it doesn't, we're ready to accept that, but hoping things will work out.

In other news, class starts tomorrrow, and I haven't paid for it yet. Mom didn't get me my FAFSA info until 2 days ago, and she still needs to sign. I applied for a loan, but it's still in the process of being approved. I also need to grab my last few books. Mom is sending a check to reimburse me for the full amount.

I also got my credit card in the mail. Haven't used it yet, but I may put the cost of the online class I'm taking on there and pay it off over a couple months. I have to see what my payment options are. Lucky for me, that class doesn't start until the 4th.

At any rate, I'm happy to be getting into class again! I miss it, admittedly. Wish me luck, everyone!

5 Responses to “Relationship struggles”

  1. Broken Arrow Says:
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    It may be rather dubious coming from me, but I find that the "secret" to most relationships isn't so much to not have problems, but be capable of working them out.

    I suppose as a last resort, it's also about knowing when it's not a good idea to continue as well.... But I think the most important is having communication and the effort to work things out somehow.

    Oh well, just thinking out loud. Glad things are looking up!

  2. LuckyRobin Says:
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    I don't know if you meant for it to come across like this, but it almost sounds like you got back together with your boyfriend for financial convenience, rather than that you worked stuff out. I hope that's not the case at all for your sake, but it kind of reads that way.

  3. fern Says:
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    I'm really sorry you were having relationship issues. I hope the car gives you the independence you need.

  4. ceejay74 Says:
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    Robin, the way I read it was, it may seem financially reckless to buy a car in order to stay together, but just think of the financial stuff that would have come with breaking up and it no longer seems that crazy. I think it's just hard for a thrifty person to justify an expense like that, even to save a relationship! :-)

  5. pjmama Says:
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    Thanks ceejay! That's definitely the way it goes... I'm not staying with my boyfriend for purely financial reasons whatsoever. I'm not denying that it is more convenient financially to stay together, but I would under no circumstances stay for that reason alone. I love my boyfriend quite a bit, and I think that's reason enough to try and work it out, even if that means buying a car (which is not in my best financial interest, might I mention).

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